I thought event or worker was the default MPM on modern Linux distros? event is the most modern, worker is fine, prefork is only preferred if you’re using mod_php or other non-thread safe module(s).
I’m guessing you’ve installed mod_php? That module requiresmod_prefork because it is not thread safe. You should never use mod_php. So, the mistake here was installed mod_php, which switched your system to using the mod_prefork MPM, and now you’ve got a mess to clean up if you don’t want to use mod_prefork. You need to start by uninstalling mod_php (if that is how you got to this situation).