If I extract the homedir file jew.com_dir.tar.gz with 7z I get the following errors and the files and folders are all in folders with different numbers rather than all under public_html (this is obviously caused by 7zip not liking the Gzip format and thus extracting as a straight TAR)
It seems that the issues you described aren’t related to Virtualmin backup file. Most probably it happens because limited symlink support in Windows—if I remember correctly, it’s disabled by default, and non-administrator users cannot create symlinks unless developer mode is enabled.
Also, I think you could try using the native tar command in PowerShell instead.
Todo : stop using windows applications to play with files that are produced via a linux OS it could be said there are issues with, perhaps, windows applications, that are not 100% compatible with a linux based archive, cut your losses ditch windows as your daily driver and use a linux desktop and associated utilities:) - joke